Really sorry to hear, hope it turns out to be nothing :(
It especially hits home because we also haven't had any kids yet and we're both over 30..
Having a baby is stressful enough, without worrying about specifics like this.
I don't know what to say without sounding patronising or insincere.
With our two, my neuroses went into overdrive worrying whether or not they'd be healthy babies. And I'm a worrier anyway. When Clare was pregnant with the second one there was a spate of adverts for a deaf/blind child charity and I couldn't shake the empathy I'd have for a child in that situation, and the worry it'd happen to ours.The only thing that happened during the pregnancies was that William was breach for a bit and Stephen was fine all the way through up until the birth when they found he had the cord wrapped around his neck... they had to wheel in a resus trolley and we went from everything's fine to absolute panic in seconds. So even if you're told everything's ok, strange stuff can happen. That's probably not very reassuring - sorry.... :-S
You can't control/change anything any more than you can change the weather. I've learned that worrying about stuff is a pretty crap way to be all the time and have stopped myself doing it. You've just got to hope it works out ok.
Hope it all works out ok! :-)
We had our first at the ripe old ages of 35 and that was a breeze (well...apart from Emma spending the first 12 weeks with her head in the toilet bowl in between pickled gherkin cravings).
We kept busy yesterday after leaving the hospital (after the obligatory 'tell our parents' visits). Ate lunch out at our favourite middle-of-nowhere pub, went to a nursery and bought a load of garden stuff, ate cake and got back in time to pick up our girl from nursery...obviously she kept us busy until bed-time.
Then we watched Interstellar and went to bed.
So yeah, kept busy. Lots to do over the weekend so there won't be too much time to 'think' about things that don't need to be thought about until the results come through which is just how I want it at the moment.
Don't really know what to say, so I'll just say this: (hug)
I remember the nerves we had over a far less dramatic scan. Best wishes mate, I hope it all works out for you.
Sorry to hear that mate. Getting news like that is horrible, we also had an anomaly in the scan with our new one that is still waiting to be checked out. The waiting is the worst.
I have no offers of advice other than carry on life as normal.
Massive Hug to you both.
The other side of things is, doctors are sometimes wrong. There is a baby named Hope at CHOP and she was expected to live for three hours at most after birth. She is now nearly a month old and may soon be breathing on her own.
Yeah, these have been a long few days.
Still, the scan is tomorrow, and whilst we won't get answers immediately, it won't be too long.
Hope everything checks out OK with yours. I think even if all the tests and scans are clear, I don't think I'll be able to breath until birth day. Mind you, I remember being like that with our first and that pregnancy was plain sailing so that just might be a 'Dad' thing.
Good Luck with the scans, We finally got the answer we needed and I am happy to say the new baby is fine and home with the family.
Have another hug, being a dad is hard when you know you have no control over anything!
Hope all turns out ok. It's bad enough right at the start when the baby to be is only 6mm long and there are worries.
And good news Wattsy :)